TW: SEXUAL LANGUAGE
Sexual domination is something that requires consent.
Safe sex isn’t just about protecting yourself;
it’s about protecting your sexual partners.
(and it’s not just about pregnancy or disease!)
For example, if you have a dick and it’s in someone’s mouth, consider this before you push down on their head or pull them up by their hair:
“Is this person okay with me taking control?”
In truly safe sex, control cannot be taken. It can only be given.
If someone is giving you oral sex for the first time and you feel the need to control the speed, why not use words instead of actions? Don’t immediately start pushing and pulling someone’s head around without asking first; this can be incredibly triggering for survivors of sexual trauma.
Taking control without being absolutely sure that the other person is comfortable giving it up is selfish and presumptuous at best and sexual assault at worst.
Establishing consent is easy - just ask!
Protect yourself and protect your partners.
(Message approved by this minotaur who learnt how to take no for an answer!)