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“Baby sad?”

“No, sad baby, oh no, no sad”

“Sing? Make not sad? Sing baby?”

“Sing sad baby. Baby not sad. I’m a good dog.”



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Tips for respecting children’s spaces, competence, and general existence from a preschool teacher:

  • Listen to them
  • Ask them, “Do you want to say hi to your auntie/grandma/cousin/dad/whatevs” (Hint: they will be honest and this can result in a simple hello or a hug or a silly “No!” depending how comfortable they feel)
  • If they don’t want to hug you realize it’s not that they don’t love you it’s that they don’t know you/don’t feel like hugging.
  • Just like every other person who doesn’t want a hug
  • In the event that you need to move a child EXPLAIN TO THEM WHY and WHAT YOU ARE DOING don’t just move them like PROPS they are CHILDREN and NOT props
  • For instance, “I’m going to move your chair over so we have room at the table for everyone!”
  • Or  “Sorry there was a person running by I didn’t want you to get smushed so I had to pick you up!”
  • Remind them that they are people not objects using your actions
  • Asking children to do something they don’t want to do but NEED to do often doesn’t work, instead give them a choice, “Do you want to eat bok choy or yams?”
  • NOT “Do you want to eat your vegetables?”
  • “Do you want to brush your teeth in the bathroom or the kitchen”
  • This exercises their ever-growing free will and is especially useful during TERRIFIC TWOS okay TERRIFIC not TERRIBLE they’re TERRIFIC
  • Children will copy you, MODEL FOR THEM
  • Being over enthusiastic IS beneficial for them understanding emotional and social competence
  • “I hung this picture uneven, that makes me sad, hmmm! Oh goodie, I found my mistake! Now I can fix it, I’ll feel much happier when I’ve fixed it!”
  • You think it sounds ridic yeah well hearing you do that children around you just learned to not get so discouraged by their mistakes and that it’s okay to try to fix them
  • You make a mistake that hurt a child, APOLOGIZE and show them how to do it properly and genuinely
  • Realize children are fully competent and are capable of making meanings from YOUR implications about race, culture, gender, ability, sexuality, EVERYTHING
  • Many three year olds know what the N-word is, what gay means, can identify which children are visably disabled, and YOUR REACTIONS of their answers of questions about their culture
  • Children like to talk about themselves so do not ever dismiss what they say about themselves as illegitimate just because it sounds silly or unlikely sometimes it’s true
  • Stop talking about how you hate children, just leave them alone if you don’t understand them you don’t have to be complete jerks to PEOPLE you’ve never met
  • I will post more and if people have question PLS ASK ME I WOULD LOVE TO ANSWER WHAT I KNOW

This got so many more notes than I thought it would but wow I am really pleased people are into this and taking this seriously cause it’s my life calling jeeze.

This would have saved so many panic attacks and meltdowns when I was a kid. Also reblogging for those who were at the Teaching Children Age-appropriate Agency panel at wiscon.

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  • 12-year-old girl: I don't want kids when I grow up.
  • Society: You'll change your mind when you get older. You're only 12. You're too young to know what you want.
  • 16-year-old girl: I'm pregnant.
  • Society: How could you be so stupid? Do you know anything about safe sex? You should be ashamed.
  • 20-year-old woman: I'm a single mother with an infant son.
  • Society: You should've gone to college first. You need a stable career before you can support a child.
  • 33-year-old woman: I'm married and my spouse and I both have stable careers. I have two young daughters now.
  • Society: You're not staying home? Who's going to take care of them? You're just going to put them in day care while you work? That's selfish of you. You can't expect to raise decent kids with a full-time job.
  • 45-year-old woman: I just had my first child.
  • Society: Why would you have a child when you're that old? Do you realize the health risks of being pregnant at your age? When your kid is a teenager you'll be a senior citizen. That's inconsiderate of you.
  • 60-year-old woman: I haven't had any children.
  • Society: Your life must be so unfulfilling. Is there something wrong with you? Why didn't you want kids? How strange.
I began to perceive a new construct of trans women start popping up all over the place in media and culture, like dandelions in the Spring. One minute it was wholly absent from the public consciousness, the next minute (sometime in mid-2011) it was fucking everywhere. This was The Child Who Simply Knew. The little child who was born a boy but right from the get go insisted she was a girl and wanted to play with dolls and wear pretty dresses and go to Girl Scouts. And everywhere across North America you could hear the collective, patronizing “awwwww” of the cis-patriarchal consciousness.


Powwow tiny tots. Cuter than a flock of hipsters. More powerful than their appropriation.

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by Katia Hetter

My daughter occasionally goes on a hugging and kissing strike.

She’s 4. Her parents could get a hug or a kiss, but many people who know her cannot, at least right now. And I won’t make her.

“I would like you to hug Grandma, but I won’t make you do it,” I told her recently.

“I don’t have to?” she asked, cuddling up to me at bedtime, confirming the facts to be sure.

No, she doesn’t have to. And just to be clear, there is no passive-aggressive, conditional, manipulative nonsense behind my statement. I mean what I say. She doesn’t have to hug or kiss anyone just because I say so, not even me. I will not override my own child’s currently strong instincts to back off from touching someone who she chooses not to touch.

I figure her body is actually hers, not mine.

It doesn’t belong to her parents, preschool teacher, dance teacher or soccer coach. While she must treat people with respect, she doesn’t have to offer physical affection to please them. And the earlier she learns ownership of herself and responsibility for her body, the better for her.


Would you want your daughter to have sex with her boyfriend simply to make him happy? Parents who justify ordering their children to kiss grandma might say, “It’s different.”

No, it’s not, according to author Jennifer Lehr, who blogs about her parenting style. Ordering children to kiss or hug an adult they don’t want to touch teaches them to use their body to please you or someone else in authority or, really, anyone.

“The message a child gets is that not only is another person’s emotional state their responsibility but that they must also sacrifice their own bodies to buoy another’s ego or satisfy their desire for love or affection,” said Lehr.

“Certainly no parent would wish for their teenager or adult child to feel pressure to reciprocate unwanted sexual advances, yet many teach their children at a young age that it’s their job to use their bodies to make others happy,” she said.

Read more…

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First off, I reject one-size-fits-all parenting, so you could really re-write this list to be 20 things you personally feel your child should hear. But for my update of the attached list (on things a mother should tell a son):

1. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don’t take something away from her that you can’t give back.

So don’t be a douchebag. Wait for enthusiastic consent before acting, and let your partner know that ze never “owes” you anything, ever.

2. Play a sport.  It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble.   And maybe even throw or catch. 

If you feel like it. You can also try out for academic competitions and art fairs, which will teach you similar values. Or get lost in a good book. Or volunteer for a charity. Find what makes you feel like “you”.

3. Use careful aim when you pee.  Somebody’s got to clean that up, you know.

And remember when you clean up a mess you’ve made, you have made the day just that much better for the next person.

4. Save money when you’re young because you’re going to need it some day.   

But also remember that money has no power unless it’s in motion, and there’s no shame in living paycheck-to-paycheck.

5. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom.  Now please go use them.

And if you like, we can spend time doing the chores together, turning work into play. As long as you do your share, I’ll do mine, and we can sing a song together.

6. Pray and be a spiritual leader.

Or don’t. This one is really up to you. No pressure.

7. Don’t ever be a bully and don’t ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.

It’s okay to run away. No really, it is. Life isn’t fair, and sometimes people who are acting in self-defense are punished anyway. You use your best judgement.

8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.

Unless they punch you in the right place (see above). :D But seriously, your thoughts and experiences are your own.

9. Treat women kindly.  Forever is a long time to live alone and it’s even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.

More importantly, there is no default human. No seriously, it’s not the hetero white cis male, and it’s certainly not you.

10. Take pride in your appearance. 

However you define that. Sometimes people will try to force you to look how they expect you to look. Whether you comply is up to you. But I’ll gladly look past any exterior to see the you inside.

11. Be strong and tender at the same time. 

And more importantly, remember that being masculine doesn’t make you more of a man, and being feminine doesn’t make you more of a woman. Or anything in-between.

12. A woman can do everything that you can do.  This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M.  Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.

Sometimes your relationships will fit gender roles. Sometimes they won’t. What matters more is whether they’re built upon ethics, empathy, and equity.

13. “Yes ma’am” and “yes sir” still go a long way.

Yes, sucking up to people can get you what you want. Just be aware of the possible costs to such compromises. Also, know that being kind to others is often its own reward, and that’s what makes life sweeter.

14. The reason that they’re called “private parts” is because they’re “private”.  Please do not scratch them in public.

Or better yet, know your audience. ;)

15. Peer pressure is a scary thing.  Be a good leader and others will follow. 

Or be a good follower. Or step aside and watch the world go by. But know that you have the power to make the world better for others and for yourself, even if that power seems entirely insignificant.

16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.

An even better idea: bring her to the flowers. Visit your local gardens, and experience that which is thriving in nature. So much of which makes life beautiful can’t be bought.

17. Be patriotic.

Sometimes that means questioning or even opposing actions of your local and national governmental agencies. Remember that governments exist to serve people, and that includes you and me.

18. Potty humor isn’t the only thing that’s humorous.  

But if your only other available option for a laugh is a bad pun, just let that moment pass in silence. ;)

19. Please choose your spouse wisely.  My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.

That means choosing someone who has compatible goals to yourself, no matter short term or long term, one partner or several. I trust you to know what’s right for you, so don’t worry your head over whether or not I’ll approve of hir.

20. Remember to call your mother because I might be missing you.

Really, anyone who loves you and cares for you will be glad to hear from you. And hopefully, we’ll be reaching out to you as well.


“Pro-family.”  People toss that around a lot, especially when they want support from values voters.  But what does that even mean, anyway? 

There’s a group out there masquerading as pro-family while pushing for a constitutional amendment that will end up hurting children.  Read more here.


God is not great.