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Posts tagged "rape culture"

angryampersand:

angryampersand:

I’m really glad people are opening up and talking now, because the degree to which people think shit like this is acceptable is ridiculous. Industry professionals need to make huge changes, but so do consumers and fans. We just all need to be better than this. Jesus Christ. 

Adding these last tweets too because it illustrates perfectly how this stuff goes even beyond “internet harassment” to creating a culture where women don’t feel safe doing their day to day lives because of  the way that men get away with this shit ( and without being challenged or silenced!). 

My biggest hope from all these conversations is that they will not just go away, like so many previous ones, and that things will start to change, because. I mean how many other ways are there to say this? Unacceptable and abhorrent in every way. 

(via sephet)

wearethefourthwave:

"THIS PICTURE WILL NOT CHANGE THE WORLD, BUT I STILL NEED FEMINISM AND I’M GOING TO REALLY, REALLY TELL YOU WHY":

-Because I got called a whore for wearing a short plaid skirt when I was 10

-and because when Nujood Ali from Yemen was 10 she got divorced

-Because black girls’ names became my classmates’ favorite “joke” when I was 11

-and because when an 11-year-old girl in Texas was raped by 18 men the New York Times wrote of how the girl “dressed older than her age”

-Because I started counting calories when I was 14

-and because when Malala Yousafzai was 14 she was shot in the head for trying to go to school

-Because I heard a boy greet a girl with “hey slut” today at age 16
-and because when a 16-year-old girl in Steubenville, Ohio was filmed being raped by two boys at a party while unconscious the CNN reporters talked about how tragic it was because the rapists had such bright futures as athletes

-Because I will have to watch my drink at all bars and parties when I am 22

-and because when CeCe McDonald was 22 she was sentenced to 41 months in prison for defending herself against a man who screamed transphobic, racist insults at her and then slashed her face with a bottle

-Because no matter what age I am the biggest threat to men will still be heart disease, and the biggest threat to women will still be men.

-Because it is not just about me, because it is not just about anger, because it is not just a JOKE, because it is not just about “hating men,” because it is not just about girls with vaginas, because it is not just about ending “slut”, because it is not just about white straight girls in Rookie magazine, because it is not just about writing on backs, because it is not just about the fact that gay men are “fags” but lesbians are “hot,” because it is not just about pictures of thin white girls being the only google image results for the search phrase “beautiful women”, because it is not just about writing signs, because it is not just about what she was wearing or how many times she said yes before she changed her answer to no, because misogyny is not just about one thing and feminism is not just about one thing and it is not just “a trend” and it will not “happen” in just one way.

-And because yes. It is about equality for EVERYONE, but first and foremost it needs to be about equality for girls, because they are not treated equally to men, in every single sense, and you are not going to take feminism away from me and call me bossy/hostile/aggressive and make this about yourself or make it into a joke, because truth be told, I’m not joking and I’m tired of explaining. If you want to call yourself a feminist, you work hard to spread feminism, you do not turn this into a contest of whose struggle is greater and constantly demand to know what you can get out of feminism personally. Feminism is not just about you, or me, it is about everyone. If you’re male and you’re tired of men being stereotyped as hyper-masculine, soulless, sexist, inherent leader-tyrant creatures, then go out and prove the patriarchy wrong and fight for girls, like someone with a soul who believes in equality would. Then, yes, feminism will be about everyone.

-Sylvie (an amazing grrrl godess)
Photo taken by Caroline http://c-h-0-w.tumblr.com/

(via saphire-dance)

Have you ever heard the phrase cockblocking? You know, you’re at a bar, talking to a girl, and what happens? Her less attractive friend comes over and ruins everything. Cockblock. Well I have to tell you something guys: I have been the less attractive friend, and you were NOT cockblocked. I was following orders from my better-looking friend that she did not wanna fuck you. …Girls have two signals for their friends: ‘I’m gonna fuck him’ and ‘HELP.’

Amy Schumer [x] (via rashaka)

The number of “get me out of here” tactics women have developed and shared to help each other escape from overly-insistent-to-borderline-predatory dudes in public places should probably be enough evidence of the existence of rape culture all on its own.

(via madgastronomer)

YES

(via ellakrystina)

I especially like how, in the majority of cases, you don’t have to verbally communicate what your signals are to other women. I’ve had women I didn’t even know come save me. Literally every woman recognizes the “Dear god, help me” facial expression, and knows exactly what they should do. We don’t get a handbook for this. We don’t have a sit-down nail polish party where we talk about a standardized woman code for preventing creepers. It’s just part of being a woman.

BUT LOL RAPE CULTURE DOESN’T EXIST.

(via eastberlin)

Yup. I’ve definitely taken strangers by the arm and pulled her aside to go, “Oh my GOD it’s you! How ARE YOU?!? It’s been so long!” and then been like “hey I could overhear that guy who wouldn’t leave you alone so I figured I’d give you an out” and then see their VISIBLY RELIEVED expressions. This is part of girl code, because rape culture is that pervasive.

(via thebicker)

I once had a girl sit on my lap and say “hey baby” after she witnessed a guy (who was easily 20+ years older than me) hitting on me and harassing me for my number even after I told him I was taken. After he got up and left she asked if I was okay. I couldn’t thank her enough times, I even bought her a drink.

(via castielsmiles)

We have done this. In fact, we are this. Because we are asexual and we don’t like alcohol so we never drink, we have gone with friends to parties/places where our sole job was to keep an eye out for everyone and be the permanent ‘aggressive man-sheild.’ Not one of our female friends has ever questioned this or found it all strange. In fact, often once they realized we were willing to do it, it would be pre-arranged. Every guy friend we ever did this in front of or tried to explain to looked flabbergasted. They had no idea that this was a) an intentional thing, b) a planned ahead thing, or c) universal.

Rape culture is the fact that every woman understands this. Male privilege is the fact that no guy on earth seems to know or understand.

(via cractasticdispatches)

I’ve been asked to pretend to be my friend’s girlfriend every time we go out at night, just because she wears clothes that show off her curves and guys won’t leave her alone. They only back off when I put my arm around her and act as if we’re together romantically, and sometimes not even then.

(via zaataronpita)

i once ran interference for a friend, only to receive the unwanted advances myself. he wouldn’t back off until my (male) friend literally wrapped me up in his arms and acted as if he was my S.O.

(via miljathefailcat)

It happens online too. A guy I know started Facebook-stalking me after a recent interaction, and my roommate immediately got on Facebook and told him she was my girlfriend. He thankfully backed off after that.

I can’t count the number of times I have pretended to be somebody’s girlfriend or sister in a bar when a guy wouldn’t leave her alone. Both with friends and strangers.

(via feministsupernatural)

After reading these, I feel like taking a shower. Because I’m the designated driver pretty much every time, not being a big fan of alcohol, but I rarely, if ever, intervene. And yeah, I’m small and pretty physically weak, but I could put my foot down verbally if it came down to it. I’m just too scared.

(via harperhug)

You’re probably scared of confronting the guys.  And you should be.  That’s what this whole post is about.  Rape culture is so prevalent and socially accepted as the rule of the land that if someone confronts a guy and tells him directly to back off, someone is getting hurt.  That’s why all of the testimonies here are examples of how to deflect.  How women all learn methods of pulling a woman away from a situation with a guy who isn’t allowing her to say no, by making up some lie that will get the guy to let her go without sending him into a rage and deciding to teach you both a lesson about knowing your place and submitting to rape culture.  Men are dangerous in these situations because all of society backs them up as just a nice guy who deserves a chance, and vilifies any woman who refuses to give him a chance.  Women are not allowed to say no.  So other women have to rescue the women saying no and pull them away with some made up excuse.  Otherwise the situation will escalate and the ones who get hurt are always the women. 

(via coffeegleek)

Women absolutely have to learn rescue tactics for each other, but it’s kind of funny how we describe really obvious facial expressions and body language as “secret signals.” The reality is that women telegraph disinterest in these aggressive men, making it super obvious, but men choose to ignore it. Total strangers who are just sitting nearby or happen to glance their way will be able to see that the woman isn’t interested, but the guy making the advances is somehow oblivious? Unlikely.

(via smitethepatriarchy)

And perceived physical power of the woman doesn’t matter either, I have had to do this for other rollergirls. Even after bouts where they are bruised, sweaty, and partying with a bunch of other built women in the same jersey.

(via polerin)

(via saphire-dance)

fygirlcrush:

Is James Franco’s “apology” a fucking joke? Is he serious? Seriously?

SERIOUSLY?!

This asshole hauls himself to a fucking morning show to say, “Oh shit man, I guess I don’t know how to use social media correctly to meet people! You never know who’s on the other end, amirite?”

Not, “I’m sorry I was using my fame to try to meet a seventeen year old girl at a hotel to fuck her while she’s on vacation with her mom.”

Not, “I’m sorry that the media is blaming a teenage girl for ‘entrapment’ when all she was doing was exposing me for being a creep.”

I’m so heated about this whole thing, I really am. Not even because James Franco is gross as hell, but because of the insane reaction he’s caused. People all over the internet saying that this teenage girl is an idiot, a bitch, a conniving slut. Because a celebrity wanted to organize a totally inappropriate hook up and she outed him for it.

And now he delivers this fake-ass bullshit apology and the world goes right back to rimming him for “handling this so well, gosh it could happen to anyone!!!”

James Franco did not get “catfished”, okay? He tried to have sex with a high school girl after meeting her as a fan. The power dynamics going on here are so fucked I don’t even know where to start. Fuck him and fuck his fake apology. Teenage girls deserve more than a society that tells them they should spread it for every pretty asshole with a lot of money who bothers to pay attention to them. 

(via sephet)

TW: #RAPE, #RAPE CULTURE, #SEXUAL ASSAULT In California, a police officer who ejaculated on a woman he’d detained at a traffic stop -and threatened to arrest her if she took action against him- was let off even after admitting what he’d done. Why? Well, the victim was a stripper on her way home from work. In officer David Alex Park’s 2007 trial, Park’s defense attorney argued that the woman “got what she wanted” and that she was “an overtly sexual person”. The jury (composed of one woman and eleven men) found Park not guilty on all counts.
Similarly, a judge in Philadelphia ruled that a sex worker whom multiple men had raped at gunpoint hadn’t been raped at all -she’d just been robbed. The victim, a twenty-year-old woman, who’d worked for an escort service and obtained clients via Craigslist, had agreed to certain sexual acts with the defendant for a set amount of money. But he lured her to an abandoned piece of property and pulled a gun -then more men started showing up. When a fifth man was invited to assault her, he instead helped her get dressed and leave because he saw that she was crying. But municipal judge Teresa Carr Deni insisted that what happened to this woman wasn’t rape -it was “theft of services”.
“I thought rape was a terrible trauma,” Deni told a Philadelphia Daily News columnist. “[A case like this] minimized true rape cases and demeans women who are really raped.”
Women who are “really” raped. You can’t get much clearer than that -a sex worker just doesn’t classify as one of these victims.

Jessica Valenti - The Purity Myth (via misandry-mermaid)

This makes me so fucking angry I can’t even function

(via carleecochina)

(via theotherscottpeterson)

polyverse:

It’s that simple.

(via sephet)

thewomanfromitaly:

geekbap:

jenawithonen:

foulmouthedliberty:

It’s always super fun to start the day with a story as creepy as this. 

Is this study brought to is by the “no shit, Sherlock” foundation?

See also: Why Men Get Pissed Off When You Refuse To Let Them Buy You A Drink

This is possibly the most obvious news article I have ever read, what in the fucking hell

also bolded the last comment because its really, really important. hint: they’re mad they cant rape you

(via saphire-dance)

galaxyofwitches:

ouyangdan:

latetothepointofknowledge:

feminist-cardassian-greyjoy:

ouyangdan:

If you’re going to see Divergent, be aware that it contains a fairly unexpected and graphic rape scene.

an article about it 

As is pointed out in the article, the scene does involve A) the character successfully fighting off her attacker, and B) being congratulated for doing the right thing, if those would also affect your decision to see the film.

that article is disgusting and i am gobsmacked at how many people are fighting to tell me how IMPORTANT! and even FEMINIST! and EMPOWERING! that fucking rape scene is and that a writer who claims to embrace feminist ideals is trying to sell you all on this bullshit (also, DIVERGENT fandom, you can not have it both ways. either it’s rape like the article says or it’s not and the article is wrong though either way you’re all wrong about this).

there is no “right thing” to do when you are raped other than survive. and god i am disgusted that anyone would find a feminist message in a rape narrative.

it honestly scares me that people think this is a valuable message and that they would go to so much trouble to perpetuate this myth that fighting back is the “right” way to get raped.

sometimes that’s a good way to get killed and ffs i really fear for some of you.

none of this negates my OP: There is a rape scene in DIVERGENT that is potentially triggering to viewers and idk why this is getting treated like i am disparaging the movie. even if it is as empowering as you all are foolishly suggesting, PEOPLE WILL STILL BE TRIGGERED BY IT.

l o l @ beth lalondes going on a self congratulatory PR game about this, talking about how many twitter mentions she has in her feed from big name authors or whatever, what a fucking scum bag

like nah, please, if you think having a rape scene - and it is rape even when attempted - that is not only triggering but is perpetuating the same victim blaming garbage rape culture has been spewing since its inception; then you clearly don’t give two flying fucks about ALL survivors

contextualizing a rape scene for a feminist agenda is the usual liberal feminist drivel we are so accustomed to these days

if you want narratives that have women and girls talk about rape and sexual assault how about a) not having these narratives framed in a way that always renders them as responsible for their rape b) HAVE ACTUAL SURVIVORS’ VOICES BE HEARD c) not be so fucking entrenched with hollywood’s fixation on the rape scenes themselves and perhaps focus more on the aftermath of actually surviving+coping (but that would mean that media woud have the best interests of women and survivors of sexual violence in mind) and d) STOP HAVING THESE POLARIZING VIEWS ON WHAT’S APPROPRIATE, ~EMPOWERING~ REACTIONS (grimacing so much at the “congratulated by doing the right thing” undertones and overtones here, the same rhetoric that’s been used to invalidate survivors. seriously, y’all need to throw yourselves into the nearest trash can for reeking with rape apologia) TO BEING RAPED AND ASSAULTED G O D

the fact that this movie turns a sexual assault scene into a test IS DOWNRIGHT REPULSIVE AND IT’S STEEPED IN REALLY UNFORTUNATE IMPLICATIONS THAT ARE USED AGAINST SURVIVORS ALREADY. it is still framing the responsibility of “raped or not raped” on the woman rather than on her attacker! there is nothing universally subversive about this. it is completely valid that there are survivors who find the act of tris defending herself from her assailant as empowering - THEY ARE IN THEIR RIGHT TO THIS - but to define the actual scene and its suggestions as empowering IS NOT CONSIDERING THE VOICES OF SURVIVORS WHO WERE NOT ABLE TO FIGHT OFF THEIR RAPISTS (as if the act of defending themselves against rape is a god damn obligation omfg) and lalondes’ one fucking article does not speak for every survivor, so you can all kindly fuck off your disingenuous soap boxes, stop applying the terms ~subversive~ and ~deconstructive~ all haphazardly on shit that’s just stinking old patriarchy dressed up in liberal feminist bullshit warped as ~*~sho progressive~*~

if someone doesn’t want to watch divergent because of that scene, regardless of whatever reason/justification, THEY ARE ABSOLUTELY IN THEIR RIGHT TO NEVER SEEING IT. you don’t get to determine what is or what isn’t triggering for someone

(via metalgender)

galaxyofwitches:

ouyangdan:

latetothepointofknowledge:

feminist-cardassian-greyjoy:

ouyangdan:

If you’re going to see Divergent, be aware that it contains a fairly unexpected and graphic rape scene.

an article about it 

As is pointed out in the article, the scene does involve A) the character successfully fighting off her attacker, and B) being congratulated for doing the right thing, if those would also affect your decision to see the film.

that article is disgusting and i am gobsmacked at how many people are fighting to tell me how IMPORTANT! and even FEMINIST! and EMPOWERING! that fucking rape scene is and that a writer who claims to embrace feminist ideals is trying to sell you all on this bullshit (also, DIVERGENT fandom, you can not have it both ways. either it’s rape like the article says or it’s not and the article is wrong though either way you’re all wrong about this).

there is no “right thing” to do when you are raped other than survive. and god i am disgusted that anyone would find a feminist message in a rape narrative.

it honestly scares me that people think this is a valuable message and that they would go to so much trouble to perpetuate this myth that fighting back is the “right” way to get raped.

sometimes that’s a good way to get killed and ffs i really fear for some of you.

none of this negates my OP: There is a rape scene in DIVERGENT that is potentially triggering to viewers and idk why this is getting treated like i am disparaging the movie. even if it is as empowering as you all are foolishly suggesting, PEOPLE WILL STILL BE TRIGGERED BY IT.

l o l @ beth lalondes going on a self congratulatory PR game about this, talking about how many twitter mentions she has in her feed from big name authors or whatever, what a fucking scum bag

like nah, please, if you think having a rape scene - and it is rape even when attempted - that is not only triggering but is perpetuating the same victim blaming garbage rape culture has been spewing since its inception; then you clearly don’t give two flying fucks about ALL survivors

contextualizing a rape scene for a feminist agenda is the usual liberal feminist drivel we are so accustomed to these days

if you want narratives that have women and girls talk about rape and sexual assault how about a) not having these narratives framed in a way that always renders them as responsible for their rape b) HAVE ACTUAL SURVIVORS’ VOICES BE HEARD c) not be so fucking entrenched with hollywood’s fixation on the rape scenes themselves and perhaps focus more on the aftermath of actually surviving+coping (but that would mean that media woud have the best interests of women and survivors of sexual violence in mind) and d) STOP HAVING THESE POLARIZING VIEWS ON WHAT’S APPROPRIATE, ~EMPOWERING~ REACTIONS (grimacing so much at the “congratulated by doing the right thing” undertones and overtones here, the same rhetoric that’s been used to invalidate survivors. seriously, y’all need to throw yourselves into the nearest trash can for reeking with rape apologia) TO BEING RAPED AND ASSAULTED G O D

the fact that this movie turns a sexual assault scene into a test IS DOWNRIGHT REPULSIVE AND IT’S STEEPED IN REALLY UNFORTUNATE IMPLICATIONS THAT ARE USED AGAINST SURVIVORS ALREADY. it is still framing the responsibility of “raped or not raped” on the woman rather than on her attacker! there is nothing universally subversive about this. it is completely valid that there are survivors who find the act of tris defending herself from her assailant as empowering - THEY ARE IN THEIR RIGHT TO THIS - but to define the actual scene and its suggestions as empowering IS NOT CONSIDERING THE VOICES OF SURVIVORS WHO WERE NOT ABLE TO FIGHT OFF THEIR RAPISTS (as if the act of defending themselves against rape is a god damn obligation omfg) and lalondes’ one fucking article does not speak for every survivor, so you can all kindly fuck off your disingenuous soap boxes, stop applying the terms ~subversive~ and ~deconstructive~ all haphazardly on shit that’s just stinking old patriarchy dressed up in liberal feminist bullshit warped as ~*~sho progressive~*~

if someone doesn’t want to watch divergent because of that scene, regardless of whatever reason/justification, THEY ARE ABSOLUTELY IN THEIR RIGHT TO NEVER SEEING IT. you don’t get to determine what is or what isn’t triggering for someone

(via shobogan)

stewardish:

stewardish:

A comparison of two tumblr blogs: creepshots and okcgoldmine.

—okcgoldmine: re-posts photos of men; photos were taken with men’s permission and posted personally by the men on a public web page
—creepshots: posts photos of women taken without the women’s knowledge or consent.

—okcgoldmine: has no ads
—creepshots: has ads

—okcgoldmine: uses tags that come directly from the words written by the men and posted by them at okcupid. Examples: jack of all trades, devil’s advocate, men’s rights, everything but rap.
—creepshots: typical tags are: upskirt, phat, booty, hungryass, boobs.

—okcgoldmine: sometimes adds humorous text, such as “Boy you must be the sun because you need to stay 93 million miles away from me.” But most posts have text written by the men themselves and posted by them on a public web page. (x)
—creepshots: adds text such as "I caught these two mamacitas suntanning with their asses out while enjoying a Carribean cruise in Dec. 2009. They were totally asleep and unaware of my camera work. They may possibly be the hottest daughter-mother pair I’ve ever seen in one shot." I would have to agree. I don’t think I can easily choose who has the better ass. Very nice creep work.—creepshots editor (x)

—okcgoldmine: taken down by tumblr in May, 2013
—creepshots: just fine with tumblr. jfc it’s all in fun u need to get a sense of humor.

reblogging because 7 months later creepshots on tumblr is still up and okcgoldmine is still down. summary:

poking fun at men: TUMBLR TAKES DOWN YOUR BLOG

posting photos of women without their consent and calling them sluts: THAT’S OK WITH TUMBLR

(via glompcat)